SNAKE IN A POT

Some of my friends claim that I complain a lot or make a lot of fuss about nothing, but then that’s what has made me. I hold myself to high standards and inevitably hold those I work with or who serve me to the same standards. So folks, give me an opportunity (will you) to let off another rant. Long-term relationships are usually very hard to end. You think about the good times you had together, the fun you shared and usually one finds comfort in reminiscing about the good times rather than go through the heartache of ending a relationship. Relationships can elevate you to new heights or drag you down into the dumps. Most people who find themselves in bad relationships almost end them as soon as they figure out that it is no good for them. However there are times when people put up with a bad relationship. Sometimes you are not sure if you will find anything better, in some cases, the good side of the relationship outweighs the ugly side – you are in a state of ambivalence. So ...

On a number of occasions, friends and relatives have approached me to help them wade through the intricate matters of getting married in Buganda.   Overtime, I have noticed that many are not even aware of the simplest and obvious steps like initiating contact with the girl’s family.   I write this commentary to try and explain the simple but lengthy process of getting married in Buganda.    My post is not based on extensive research or study but rather on what I know and have learnt over the years.   A few years ago,   I used to officiate at Baganda traditional marriage ceremonies (okwanjula).  I wish to declare that I am not an expert on Buganda culture, nor am I a specialist in Buganda traditional marriages; my involvement at such a high level (omwogezi) was at best accidental, although we shall keep that story for another day. Initiating Contact Getting married in Buganda is seemingly easy but folks complicate it for unknown reasons.   Ye...